Patriarchal Terrorism is the general need to control a relationship. This is violence initiated exclusively by men as a way to gain and maintain absolute control over their partner. (Shehan, 2003) The second form of couple violence is common couple violence, and it is not so much a product of patriarchy. (Johnson, 1995) Patriarchal terrorism exists today. In intimate violence, there are no differences based on social class, educational level, race/ethnicity, or sexual orientation. Intimate violence is violence that occurs between two people in a relationship. It includes four types of behaviors: physical abuse, sexual abuse, threats and emotional abuse. The longer the abuse lasts, the longer it will affect the victim. (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2006) Intimate partner violence occurs in all countries, across all social, economic, religious, and cultural boundaries. (Shehan, 2003) I have observed couples with good communication and poor communication and intimacy. Dr. Gottman and his colleagues have created recommendations, tactics and strategies for couples with communication, intimacy and conflict issues. There is no specific time or date when family violence began. But social scientists began studying family violence in the United States in the 1960s. (Shehan, 2003) In the United States, the way children were punished for breaking rules was often semi-violent or violent behavior. Violence existed when the family system did not exist. Violence comes in many forms: physical, mental, emotional and sexual. Family violence involves domestic violence. During the women's movement, public awareness of the problem of domestic abuse became known. The first battered women's shelter opened in 1974, and the shelter led to the opening of other domestic violence shelters and programs. In the 1990s, law enforcement declared that it considered domestic violence a serious problem. Police protocol changed and arrests were made. According to the National Survey, violence in one relationship leads to violence in another relationship. (Shehan, 2003) Families provide training bases for violence. If children see violence in their home, they do so primarily to portray violence in their daily lives. Child abuse and maltreatment includes physical, sexual, or emotional abuse, as well as neglect. Manifestations of child abuse and neglect include injuries inflicted by a child donor, head injuries, and organ injuries. Head trauma is the leading cause of death in children. According to the World Health Organization, there have been 57,000 deaths attributed to homicide among children under 15 in the country. 2000.